Family 411: The misery of reoccurring miscarriages
A miscarriage is a common type of pregnancy loss and often not talked about.
Some women experience the misery of reoccurring miscarriages.
Tara Morgan, from WSYX, shows how one woman found hope through heartache, in this week's Family 411 report.
"They're just such a blessing, it's the kind of joy, hard to understand. I know that sounds so trite."
Unless you've experienced the same pain.
"For me, this wasn't the loss of pregnancy, it was the loss of a baby."
Not one, but three miscarriages for Emily Little.
Her first pregnancy ended 11 weeks in.
"On the ultrasound, there was no heartbeat and they told me the baby had died and it was awful."
Emily's worst day repeated two more times the same year.
"It felt so unfair and it made me so mad."
Mad because nothing medically was preventing Emily from carrying to term.
"Not having an explanation was one of the hardest parts. I felt like there was nothing I could control or do differently the next time."
Perinatal Psychiatrist Dr. Tamar Gur says a quarter of pregnancies end in miscarriage.
The older you are, the increased risk.
They're known as recurring miscarriages when they happen more than twice.
"There could be a genetic abnormality or there can be an illness related to the loss of pregnancy, but most times, unfortunately, we never find out why."
Dr. Gur helped Emily cope with the loss and struggle of not having a satisfying answer.
"It's not their fault and it's one of the first things I try to reassure them."
Also to find strength in believing in starting again.
"She helped me sort of push on, despite the fear."
Emily and her husband welcomed Nora Beth a year after her third miscarriage.
"Even after she was born, I still couldn't believe she was here and okay."
Then came Elliott.
"That was a really big surprise."
Dr. Gur says it's important for women to find a solid network.
"I think too many times, we're afraid to say the wrong thing or will make a mistake and hurt the person more, but the most hurtful thing, is when friends and family disappear."
Emily will always remember the pain, and each moment of joy.
"I feel like I can remember every ultrasound and every moment the first time I saw them."
Dr. Gur says there will be that fear of becoming pregnancy again.
She recommends getting in the best mental state if that is what you want.
A counselor can help you do that.